A self -confident person never has so many "inverse scales". Confidence is actually "no need to seek others to recognize".This is why we constantly emphasize that a person must "find himself".Only one person can no longer obtain spiritual freedom with seeking to recognize others as the goal of life.
The New Year of the Dragon passed in the busyness, but the controversy of the "dragon" in the dragon year should be translated into "dragon" or "loong".In the Lunar New Year, it is "Chinese New Year" or "Lunar New Year". In recent years, it has also been arguing.Gong said that public reasoning, Po said that in -laws are reasonable, and hundreds of views are actually a good phenomenon, but trying to prohibit others from remarking too far.Why do some people feel that only themselves are right and insist on changing others according to their own intentions?Why do some people have to show hegemony in speech and expect others to yield?The answer to this question may be sought from education.
During the New Year this year, many people went to the nearby Jinsha of the Binhai Bay to watch the dragon light show shown by the drone.On the second day of the New Year, we went to a German friend who worked in Singapore as a guest.He said that his wife belonged to the dragon. At the same time, he paired with an exaggerated expression that expressed fear.This also reflects the cultural differences between East and West. After all, the western dragon and the Dragon of the East are not the same.
During the New Year, the Chinese media Xinhua News Agency released an animated short movie online, explaining the fundamental difference between Western dragons and oriental dragons in a humorous way.This short movie is released in English dubbing and Chinese and English bilingual subtitles. The design of two animated characters is interesting and the content is also very convincing.However, if someone forced others to talk about the year of the dragon, it must be called "loong", and never use "Dragon", which will become a hegemony of speech.Those who like to force others may not notice that "Dragon" in Xinhua News Agency's short films from beginning to end.
The topic of argument than the topic of "Dragon" is a translation about the Lunar New Year.Last year, Nanyang University of Technology used the term "Lunar New Year" in a carnival event in the New Year, instead of "Chinese New Year". Later, some people traded the word "Lunar" on the exhibition board to ""Chinese" has caused a storm and heated discussion.
Recently, I also saw a video video widely circulated on the Internet. The protagonist is a Westerner. To the camera, everyone is saying "Lunar New Year". I want to say "chinese new year",Because I "do not want to be stipulated."This film has won many likes in the Chinese network world, but unfortunately, there is no person who really understands the meaning of the film in the comments.Thousands of comments are supporting this Westerner, praising him to use "Chinese New Year" as a respect for Chinese culture.This is estimated to be the one who posted the video "the way you don't want to be prescribed", he never thought of it!He was actually supported by his netizens and indirectly stipulated the way of speaking.
The reason why netizens have such a reaction is that I think it is inseparable from the education that people have received from childhood.When he was a child, most family and schools used the reward and punishment system to train a child's behavior.After being considered the right thing by an adult, the child is praised and the wrong thing is punished.Not everyone realizes more encouragement to replace praise and use natural consequences instead of punishment.Therefore, many children have learned how to satisfy the expectations of others since childhood, seek the recognition of parents and teachers, and seek authoritative recognition.People who have lived to satisfy others since childhood, when they grow up, they look forward to others to meet their needs.
If a person has no other opportunity to correct this psychological mechanism, it is likely that from small to large. Looking at the eyes of others is vertical, either you go up and down, or I go up and down.When growing up, he works to satisfy the expectations of your boss and live for the expectations of parents and family members. At the same time, people who are in the lower position are required to satisfy their expectations.To extend the attitude towards others, other countries, and his nation, we must also fight for higher.If you say that a person is alive, it is not to satisfy the expectations of others, do not need to be recognized by others, and in turn, it will not be angry because others do not meet their expectations.Therefore, the reason why people show the hegemony in their words are actually related to the deep psychological recognition of others.
The phenomenon of speech hegemony is not only reflected in the controversy around "year", but also exists in the Eastern context.In the Western context, this phenomenon is also very flooded, and it can even be said that there is no time to.Scholars Jonathan Haidt and Greg Lukianoff have co -authored a book called "The Coddling of the American Mind". Why did we create a glass heart for the Taiwan translation?: The largest psychological crisis of this century, see how the "security culture" of American higher education makes the next generation fragile, anti -intellectual, anti -democracy. This seemingly very nostalgic book title directly click on the essence of the book.
The current status of American youths described in the book is even more "glass heart", and it is more radical than Chinese netizens in terms of speech and behavior. It even created a real violent incident, and sometimes it was a lives.The so -called "political correctness" walked through, and went towards the hegemony of speech and moved towards endless criticism and witch hunting.Psychologically analyzed, they also fell into the trap of "seeking others recognition" endlessly.
However, a self -confident person never has so many "inverse scales", and self -confidence is actually "no need to seek others' recognition."This is why we constantly emphasize that a person must "find himself".Only one person can no longer obtain spiritual freedom with seeking to recognize others, can we look at other people equally, and truly accept the "harmony and difference" of the human world from the deep inside.
The author is a former media person and creator of children's books
