Early Mountain City Fighting
A small county in Shanxi Province recently held a unique farm wedding wedding: the only male, Ding, old man married his daughter -in -law, and 11 sisters sent blessings.The ranking is quite entertaining.
This wedding video immediately attracted attention on the Internet. According to subsequent reports of Chinese media, 11 sisters have made up 320,000 yuan (RMB, the same below, about S $ 64,100) to organize the wedding for the younger brother, of which 230,000 yuan is used for use.Come to buy a house in the county.
The family probably did not expect that a joyful wedding made them fall into public opinion.
In the comments of the mountains and the sea, there are few newcomers. More puzzles and uproar expressed by netizens, and even those with emotional excitement use & ldquo; sad & rdquo; & ldquo; disgusting & rdquo;& ldquo; crowdfunding & rdquo; weddings, even gave them the title of & ldquo; helping his brother & rdquo;
& ldquo; Herbit Mo & rdquo; It was an online buzzword that appeared last year. It said that he was taught since childhood to think about his brother, even after getting married and having children, dedicated to his younger brother, and even willing to empty the family of his younger brother.They generally come from families with heavy men and girls. In some first few children, they are girls, and finally they have a boy's traditional family. Such ideas are more common.
Some Chinese netizens can't see that a man who has become a home cannot be self -reliant, and he needs to pay for a house with 11 sisters?
Has his sisters loved his brother too much, causing him to be unable to cultivate the responsibility that men should have?
In fact, the jokes and pity of & ldquo; helping brother & rdquo; for a period of time in Chinese society.On the communication platform on & ldquo; Zhihu & rdquo; and other communication platforms, not only did some people sympathize with & ldquo; help brother & rdquo; women ’s situation.Some messages say that & ldquo; Marrying a wife is most afraid of & lsquo; helping his brother & rsquo; & rdquo;, there are also men complaining about facing a little sister -in -law who has a economic burden.
In the final analysis, in the perception of a considerable number of people, my sister's unconditional responsibility and dedication to the younger brother is no longer regarded as a virtue worthy of respect, but more manifestations of men and women humble.Essence
It is true that if you stand on the position of your sister, you may be called & ldquo; help your brother & rdquo; maybe you may feel wronged.Some sisters told the media afterwards that they were willing to take out their pockets, and did not feel that their parents were young and female.
Another comment that 11 sisters to make money to give their younger brother a manifestation of family assistance.& ldquo; Surging News & rdquo; A comment supports the sisters, saying that & ldquo; helping his brother & rdquo; The title contains misunderstandings about rural China.The habit of resisting risks, my sister can help her brother, but it is normal.
Is it & ldquo;The positions of all parties highlight the people of urban and rural, intergenerational and different social backgrounds, and have different perceptions of family ethics.But I think it is quite clear that even if the warm family assistance, I can't hide the objective facts of the inequality of men and women reflected by the culture reflected by the culture.
Just as many hostages ask, why there is only & ldquo; helping his brother & rdquo; and rarely hearing & ldquo; help sister & rdquo; or & ldquo; help sister & rdquo;?
Then, according to reports, most of the 11 sisters graduated from junior high school or did not go to school, and they did not make much money. On the contrary, my younger brother did not read books but read high school.The only male has the highest academic qualifications, but the wedding is paid by his sister. It is an indisputable fact that the sisters in the countryside have made greater economic sacrifice.
It is no wonder that many Chinese netizens are worried, thinking that & ldquo; helping his brother & rdquo; Culture wearing a warm and warm coat, but made the sisters bear the heavy burden, and also put pressure on the sister's husband's family.In society, it is more and more like a kind of oppression.
11 sisters may not resist & ldquo; help brother & rdquo; but if there are more opportunities to be educated, they may see that they still have other opportunities. Personal value is not only realized by funding the only younger brother in the family. This is believed to be society.The conditions that they need to create for them.
For younger brothers, there can be many other ways to express love. Their dedication and sacrifice are not taken for granted.
With the trend of globalization and urbanization, the new and old family views will inevitably collide and change, and it must be a process. People do not need to overdo the younger sisters who are willing to & ldquo; help the younger brother & rdquo; but for the young men & ldquo;The trap should still be vigilant.
After all, to promote the progress of the entire society, not only the welfare of the old and younger brothers must be taken care of, but 11 sisters should also have the same bright prospect.