The female elite graduated from China Peking University talked with the famous Japanese female scholar Ueno Chiyo, and was scolded on Weibo.
Ueno Chiyoko is a well -known feminist writer, sociologist, and a professor at the University of Tokyo. It can be said to be Japanese feminist pioneers.Her works: feminism, the female patriarchal system and capitalism from scratch and the popular new books of last year, began at the limit: feminism was brief, and the online bookstores have always occupied a recommendation position.High.
The well -known sociologist around the world was born in a wealthy Japanese family.His father is a doctor, and his mother is a full -time housewife who is a resentment.Thinking of the hard -working life as her mother when she grows up, Ueno Chihezi is very conflict. Her interest and research on feminism may originate from this.Ueno Qianhezi once said: "Feminism is a kind of fact that female love is the fact that female loves as women, and has opened a new world for me."
Her academic research on women's housework has made the dedication of full -time housewives.The concept of "housewives is also a career, and it is time to calculate labor remuneration." It was proposed and carried forward by Ueno Chiyoko, which had a huge impact on East Asian women.Ueno Chiyoko has established her position in the Japanese academic community in the Japanese academic community in 10 years.
The 75 -year -old Ueno Chiyoko is unmarried and unmarried, and enjoys the possibility and freedom of being single.She once said: "Once married, she must seal her sexual desire on the bright side. It is extremely special that married people can publicly live a free sex life."This thinking and remarks have caused her a lot of rules and malice about private life.
The other party of the dialogue is the "80s" female elite graduated from Peking University, the top school in China, and her two roommates during the Peking University period.Quan Hehe is an Internet celebrity. She has published a series of "10 Years of Peking University" series of videos and talks with classmates who graduated from Peking University.After ten years of graduation, many students in the video have seven -digit deposits.Seven digits means that the deposit reaches at least 1 million yuan, and is envious of many audiences.
However, the all -round marriage is not successful in worldly eyes.In the previous introduction, it is roughly known that the husband's college entrance examination for the college entrance examination for two years. After graduating, the two have been engaged in an ordinary job, and the income is lower than that of Quan Hee.The two were good at Dink, but in the fourth year of marriage, they all obeyed their husband's thoughts and asked for a child.She once talked about the transformation from Dink to deciding to have children, because if she felt that if she didn't have a child, the final ending was that her husband would derail and give birth to a child with another person.In order to maintain this marriage, she finally compromised and gave birth to her daughter.
From the perspective of personal resumes, although all hee hee and Ueno Chihezi are successful women in their careers, their life choices are completely different.One dare to pursue what you think, one compromise in life events.It turns out that the dialogue between the two shows the huge difference in thought, which is also the slot of netizens.Originally looking forward to the collision between China and Japan's excellent women, the dialogue was limited to a narrow topic of marriage and love, and he was also criticized for the understanding of feminism. The question was not depth, the surface was on the surface, and even made people feel offended.
"Treat yourself honestly"
In the dialogue, Quan Hee quoted Ueno Chiyoko began in the description of the limit: "When he was in his early 20s to study in college, he imagined that he was the boss of the deserted restaurant in his 30s.It may be as early as that at that time, I have no plans to get a family. "She asked Ueno Chiyozi, is the origin of this idea because of being hurt by men, or because of the influence of native families?
This question made netizens explode.The comment believes that Quan Hehe's questions about the reasons behind Ueno Chiyo's unmarried, which highlights her "masculine thinking" of her own issue, that is, women will choose unmarried by some kind of damage.Some netizens wrote: "It places women in a downward position, as women but unconsciously examine themselves from the eyes of men.Feminists must have been persecuted to choose this situation. This assumption does simplify the path of self -growth of women, and also underestimate the existence of women's free will. "
Ueno Qianhezi answered Quan Hee said that he was not interested in marriage because his mother's marriage life was very unfortunate.The so -called ordinary ordinary marriage is often a woman swallowing.As long as you fall into such a system, no matter what you are, you will be trapped in it.This is why she does not choose the marriage system.However, she believes that the experience of having children will add a variety of connotations to her life. It is just that she respects the freedom of marriage. Everything is not forced by others, but she is actively choosing. She wants to make herself happy.
Ueno Chihezi not only answered the reason for not getting married, but also explained the feminism in her mind: "Pursuing the idea of freedom, as long as you live freely, you can do it."
In theDialogue, I all mentioned my experience, that is, from Dink to the change of the child.She also asked Ueno Chiyoko. In the feminism, is the feminism that is not married?Ueno Qianhezi replied that among female doctrines, those who are married, not married, have children, have children, insist on wearing bras, without bra, not to say that non -married female doctrinesEven greater, it seems that feminism is divided into three, six or nine.Many people think that feminism should be used to avoid falling into dogmaticism.
Ueno Chiyoko said that the most important thing is to treat yourself honestly, ask yourself in every respect, what can be acceptable, what is not acceptable, and don't fool yourself.
What can I do if I graduated from Peking University?
Quan Hehe mentioned the pressure of marriage in the interview that the resistance of not entering the marriage is too great."I can't go back to my hometown when I am 30 years old. Does someone ask me to get married? I said I don't plan to get married. This pressure is too great, I can't bear it."
AlthoughQuan Hee's career has been far away from her husband, the status in marriage is not high, and even shows the attitude of "low low".In the past videos, I even talked about it that the husband had the idea of being frustrated when the husband and wife were frustrated.On the issue of raising children, Dink, who had originally said that, changed his choice because of his husband's regret. The reason was that "if you don't have a child, the final ending is that the husband will derail."
Even the talented daughter of Peking University, he hee all chose to compromise in marriage and violate his personal will to have children.Each sentence of Ueno Chiyoko in the interview touched the depths of the soul.Feminism is not stereotyped dogma, but to let women follow the heart and understand what kind of life they want to pursue.The reason why Shangye Chiyo is a respected and respected feminist is precisely because of obeying the heart and "treating him honestly", which requires great courage and determination.
Many netizens believe that the thinking of both parties in this interview is not equal.Some people think that this is not equal to make the conversation very meaningful.Because of the thoughts of Ueno Chiyoko, "to treat yourself honestly", in the middle of Quan Quan, he worshiped his heart on the issue of marriage and childbearing.
There are also comments that for Chinese women, the dilemma facing may be very different from Japanese women.He hee hee is an example.
What can I do if I graduated from Peking University, what can I do if my career is successful?Can I keep the pressure on the pressure, do n’t you want to have a child, do n’t you want to have a baby, can you divorce when you are unhappy?How many Chinese women can get courage to say no?There are personal reasons, as well as cultural, system, and social reasons.
And, "treat yourself honestly", even if it is valuable, whether it is suitable for all women, whether it can solve the confusion and dilemma faced by women is also worth discussing.
If according to the definition of feminism in the wild, "pursuing freedom and living freely", then many women may include all women, and they are not their own feminist.They are just independent women at the economic level.
