Before going abroad, I was a host on Guangzhou TV station.Recently, because the former foreign minister Qin Gang was missing and his scandal with a TV hostess was hotly debated on the Internet. I think what should be written.
My mother has experienced the Cultural Revolution. She and college classmates and colleagues are mostly a generation of self -reliance and independence.In the past few decades, Chinese women's worship of money and power has been unprecedentedly rising.Self -esteem was abandoned, and laughed and laughed without laughing became a social consensus.Guided by such a strange social thinking, morality no longer has a bondage, how surprising women's behavior is, it seems that there are places to be able to stand in Chinese society.Rather than condemning women individuals, it is better to blame the strange circle of social manufacturing too strong, and women are often involved.
My personal path is exactly the opposite of China.In the UK, I gradually see society's pursuit of gender equality, and I realize that British women's high social status and independence consciousness.Becoming a woman hosted by TV stars is an important part of social supervision of political forces. Instead, politicians need to have a good relationship with media people.Because of the many years of men's and women's equal rights campaign, and the rise of anti -sexual harassment #Metoo campaign in recent years, most of the sex scandals I have heard in the UK are male politicians or media stars invading boysIt is not very concerned about public opinion.) The incident happened decades later, because there were no men dare to touch women again -now touching women or men's thighs, using a little erotic word and jokes of subordinates are all sexual harassment.Those words that are regarded as gentlemen in China, such as "women's priority", pulling chairs for ladies during meals, etc., are outdated language and behavior, and even have gender discrimination, because it is the leading term of the British male society.Applicable.
As a woman born in the 1970s, my growth psychological process has experienced a strong temptation from traditional Chinese social education (integrity and morality) to everything guided by Chinese media. Fortunately, I have experienced education in British society and returned to it again.To the right track, be a normal person who is self -esteem and self -reliance.
After graduating from college, I stayed in school. The university environment was simple. The superiors were intellectuals. The scholars were very angry.In 1998, he entered the TV station as a part -time host, where it was another world -at this time Hunan Satellite TV was rising, and Guangdong TV was adjacent to Hong Kong. The production of the program was leading the country as early as 10 years ago, and it was popular in Guangdong Province.But because it was broadcast in Cantonese, the influence was limited to Cantonese regions.
I have heard of which leader did the host sleep a few times.At the end of that year, Chen Xuran, the most popular host at that time at that time, was murdered at home. I heard creepy.It has always been rumored that she was killed because of the political involvement in politics. At that time, the tens of millions of household property was rare in Guangdong. The media exposed that Chen Xuran had a family property of more than 10 million, because the director of the Taiwan was her lover and helped him to become countless high profits.Television project producers, this has made our class that was first involved in television.
Because of the background of college and tutoring, I have always been an outsider who does not comply with the rules in the TV circle.Once, a middle and senior management in Taili asked me to go to the Chinese hotel (the best five -star hotel in Guangzhou at that time) to enter the karaoke room downstairs. The most popular news anchor in Tauri sat in it, and there was a foreigner.After sitting down, I learned that he was the director of the TV station somewhere.His hand kept touched on the anchor's thigh, she smiled, as if nothing was happened.Then I touched my leg, I patted his hand.When the sing K was over, before the Delta I was going to start, he rushed over and kissed the back of my hand to see me from the back of my hand -he finally saw a Chinese woman with self -esteem.
At that time, because of the show I hosted, I was sponsored by advertisers.I was invited by a colleague to attend the party, but I found that a senior executive of the advertiser was there, and I ignored him.Later I heard that it was because of me that he went to the party.
In the late 1990s and early 20th century, Guangzhou became popular (Britain after the 1980s, basically bid farewell to the beauty pageant, because it was regarded as disrespect for women), and there were many strange things: a beauty pageant was being champion.Tauri was in charge of the leadership of advertising, and then the two rolled out of the advertisement huge sums of money abroad, and the whereabouts were unknown to this day; a loser player came to our show group as an assistant and finally found the opportunity to marry a billionaire.Disery with friends.
It is very strange that after studying in the United Kingdom in 2004, I suddenly realized that Chinese women became the shortcuts and secrets of human beings -sleep with power.As for who is the body of the power, it is not important to be fat, thin, ugly and young.I also accepted such thinking: sleeping a man with power, not only do you not have to feel shame, but you can feel glorious, and women have not lost anything.In this thinking, self -esteem has no position.
After marrying my husband, we live in the town.Regardless of TV or life, I have not seen words and suggestions that encourage the pursuit of money and status; on the contrary, in the past 15 years, all I see is the social movement of pursuit of various equality (gender equality, ethnic equality, and age).The formula of women's color and status of women's color and youth is not common sense of British women today, or it has been abandoned by this society.Because until World War II, British women also rely on hue to climb the social ladder.
British women finally gain their self -esteem and independence status from the support of political forces.They have votes like men, and the right to vote in their hands prompts that political parties must introduce a campaign plan that attracts women, so that British women can enjoy unparalleled freedom of many countries around the world -popularized school education levels that all over the UK, and the country is basically close, and it is free;If it becomes a single mother, the government is given priority, so that they do n’t worry about eating and accommodation; if you want to study in college, tuition fees can be loan, and you will pay it after work; if you do n’t find a job after graduating from college, no one urges you to pay the tuition; after work, the political power has always beenIt urges the leadership of men and women to be half a point, otherwise politics is incorrect, so female leaders are endless; if they do not want to get married and have children, it doesn't matter, how to live without public opinion; there is no obligation to support parents, and usually the old generation in the UK is richer than the younger generation.; After 40 years of age, come out to find a job, no problem; after 80 years of age, I still find a boyfriend, no problem; if it is homosexual, marriage is legal.
I used to think that money and power were also the goals of the British people's collective pursuit. As a result, I found that it was wrong. Instead, Britain had the atmosphere of contempt for money and power, and coexisted with the power of pursuing money and power.
Under such a collection force, British women can pursue personal freedom and happiness without burden, and there are thousands of definitions of happiness, and they are not abducted by money and power.People who come to the UK halfway like me are not possible to pursue completely freedom. Fortunately, after living in the UK for nearly 20 years, I fully understand the rights and self -esteem of being a person, and no longer look up at money and power.The wave of fairness hopes to become a wave of waves.
The author is a bilingual writer who settled in the UK
