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News about the population or fertility rate always seems to have always been incompatible with "good news", and it feels even more recent.For example, China has confirmed that the population has shrunk for the first time in the past 60 years; a research report published by South Korea last week reflected that only 4%of Korean women aged 20 to 34 think that marriage and fertility are required;The overall fertility rate of residents last year fell to a record low, only 1.05.

Because of this, the two reports that I saw in an economics magazine a while ago were not only eye -catching for me, but also caused thinking.The population challenges faced by countries seem difficult to reverse, but in fact, favorable factors do not exist.

One of the reports focused on the fertility rate of Israel.From 1960 to 1990, the fertility rate of Israeli Jews dropped from 3.4 to 2.6, and now it has risen to 3.1.Although this trend has a direct relationship with the increase in the increase of the Ultra-Orthodox, the secular Jews also has more children.

One of the inferences of the report is that, compared with other similar wealthy countries, the grandparents of Israel share the work of taking care of the grandson more.According to surveys, among the worldly Jewish mothers aged 25 to 39, as many as 83%of respondents said that they were supported by their parents or family -in -law in the process of parenting.In Germany, this ratio is 30%.

Another special report explores the importance of grandfather and grandmother from two major trends.First of all, people have become more and more life -long, and the global life expectancy has increased from 51 in 1960 to 72.Second, the number of families is getting less and less, and children who have raised women in their lives fall from five to 2.4.This indicates that the proportion of the grandparents and grandsons is gradually increasing.

Reports analyzed the advantages and disadvantages of grandparents to participate in the parenting process. The conclusion that children are accompanied by adults other than parents in the growing period. It is still ideal.

As an on -the -job mother, my profound experience is that the government has increased parenting subsidies, accompanied by maternity leave, shortening waiting time for applications for houses, optimizing preschool education and flexible work systems.EssenceBut the young couple will not give birth or a few in the future, it is likely to depend on whether there is enough family support; especially for women who want to continue to sprint in the workplace after giving birth to a child, this is even more important.

Compared with the previous generation, women's late marriage has become a trend, and the age of giving birth to children has also increased accordingly.When they seriously consider whether they want to have children, they are likely to be in the rising period of career.Even if some of the education responsibilities can be outsourced to the child and the school, the daily care of trivial matters still requires a lot of assistance.Those who are capable or can hire maids, but how many parents can rest assured that the maids can take care of their children?

If you hope that the married children can bred the next generation, parents or all must have a certain consciousness, that is, life in old age cannot be completely unrestrained, and they must become the child's most reliable backing to a certain extent.Every family is different, and the personal health is different. How much role is to play in the process of the growth of the grandson, which varies from person to person, but it is important to discuss with the children to achieve consensus.

Perhaps readers with age age will feel angry when they see it.After half of my life for my children, in the stage of being able to carry out the second life, I still cannot be free.But take a step back. Although it will be tired and annoyed, it can be accompanied by children and grandchildren, isn't it the joy of God?

Honestly, after I also look forward to the three sons adults, I can invest in work or cultivate new hobbies without worries.If my child wants me to help look at my grandson in the future, would I hesitate?In order to allow my daughter -in -law to work hard, will I retire in advance?I think that life must not have no compromise. As long as you can clearly clarify or be or not, it should not be difficult to choose.

(The author is the editor -in -chief of the Chinese Media Group's Youth Audit Work Group [email protected])