Fu Wanyue
8 Channel program on Tuesday close -up: Losing at the starting point, the first episode tells the story of artist Li Xinyu.Even though she is a successful person today, she has been relieved of the burden of the "Lu Snake" in the past, but when she was scolded and insulted by her elders, and her experience of repeated defeats, the scabs in the past wounds still emerged from time to time emerged from time to time.Essence
This shows that in the process of children's growth, the period when the self -efficacy is established, the role of the elders around him is critical.Except for the humiliation in words, no matter how much efforts the children make, they cannot be affirmed. Small achievements other than academic achievements are considered useless, because they are not "reading materials" and they are ignored and neglected.live.He will internalize the adult's view into his own belief system: adults think I am stupid, then I must be stupid.
A column of Taiwanese scholar Hong Lan in the magazine in the world has quoted a "scum" that a Peking University professor and wife were Xueba, but her daughter was not so good at studying. She could only accept her "mediocre"EssenceThis label that hurts self -esteem is actually posted by Li Ying who loves his parents the most. This is how confusing and confession.Surprisingly, this rhetoric actually resonated with many Chinese parents.
A nine -year -old nephew in Malaysia, because he rarely came into contact with books at home, so he went to elementary school and his academic performance was not good. The teacher actually suggested that he take the "special" class.After a few years, he has been posted by the school with the label of "inconsistent attention" and "slow learning", which makes friends very heartache.But this is not equal to that children's ability to learn is not strong, but English and mathematics are not the subject he is interested in.When his parents bought him an electronic piano, he watched Youtube a few times and succeeded in studying himself.But such "achievement" is not affirmed by adults, and children do not know that they have musical talents.
When I encountered a school holiday, my nephew came to Singapore for vacation. My friend wanted to arrange him to see the therapist. I think that it is too early, and then Mao then recommended to spend two days to get along with the child and learn.Among them, I found that many of the children's foundations have not stabilized.
Although the adult said he has learned to do ten -digit and 100 -digit addition and subtraction, he did not find that the child's combination and decomposition of various numbers within the most basic 1 to 10 are not familiar.Mathematical computing must stretch out his fingers and slowly calculate.
Very obvious. This child's learning process is completely omitted with a specific stage of use, and jumps directly to the study of abstract concepts. Therefore, "Mongolia Cha" has done a few years of homework.It's still right.Forgive me, this is the teacher's negligence.
I instructed my friends not to buy an evaluation job book for the nephew, and I should send him a few more interesting picture books.In those two days, I used bone cards, connecting operators and other real objects to make him familiar with the various combinations and decompositions of numbers through various games, and I also read some high -quality English picture books for him.His cooperation is very high, some activities with interesting and accomplishment, and his concentration is quite lasting.
There are no children in the world who can't teach, only teachers who can't teach.The true meaning of teaching is from the starting point of the learner. According to his ability and interest, design the appropriate learning activity and progress roadmap, instead of adults based on their own imagination.If you do not meet the standards, it is classified as students who are "poor learning" or "useless".It is a cruel thing to destroy the spirituality and confidence of a child.
Losing the story of different characters in the starting point show, let us understand the truth.The definition of "learning ability" and "success" is very extensive and diverse.No one can say that famous artists are better than famous chefs. Teachers are more successful than priests. No one can stipulate what goals must be achieved before the age of few years to classify themselves as a victory group.
Even if there is such a sound in the society, if the correct self -effectiveness and values have been established since childhood, those voices will not easily defeat us.
The author is an educator
