Tomorrow (April 2nd) is the United Nations "the World" of the World "Awareness of Autism", but this day reminds me of many tragedies.For example, Lianhe Morning News reported together last January and this year. A father was suspected of killing his twin sons on the private house on the road on the road of Wuji.According to reports, these two poor children are suffering from autism and excessive disease, and their father also suffers from depression.The news of parents' suspicion of killing autistic children is not uncommon at home and abroad. In 2014, a case of mothers who killed the autistic twin children in Shandong, China. The judge considers the mother's depression.Prinded life imprisonment.Why is there such a tragedy in the world?Are such parents really do ten evils?
Autism, as a congenital defect, is not low in the crowd.However, the publicity of some rare individuals in movies, television and news current affairs shows people mistakenly think that they have special abilities, but the facts are far darker than imagined.Autism is distinguished from mild to severe, different degrees, and different symptoms.However, the core symptoms of all autism are "social difficulties" and "repeated stereotypes", which seriously affects daily life.This kind of social difficulties are not the kind of "social terror" that people usually understand, but their brain nervous system. There are congenital development defects, which makes it difficult for them to understand the thoughts of others normally, so that it is difficult to respond to it.People establish long -term interaction such as friendship.
People are a kind of social existence. They see each other, respond to each other, and depend on each other.However, the brain of autism is "blind" to some extent, and is called "Mind-Blindness" by professionals.My teacher, a senior psychiatrist in Hong Kong, translated it as "blindness".This kind of innate difficulties to interpret others' minds are the root causes of their social difficulties, which makes them difficult to walk in the crowd.In addition, the narrow interest and repeated stereotypes, the preference for the "unchanged" lifestyle, also makes them different from ordinary people.Moreover, many autistic children also have different symptoms such as multiple symptoms such as multi -motion, attention disorders, sensory disorders, anxiety, low wisdom, language barriers, and extensive development disorders.This is tantamount to worsening, which brings heavy difficulties to their lives.
Although I have received professional training in special education and obtained relevant diplomas, a few years ago, when I first stepped into the classroom of a special school with severe autism, I was still shocked.Seeing the students at the first glance, it will make people think of their parents and their caregivers very directly, how heavy the people should be on them!One of the students has no language ability at all, and the mood is very unstable. He will hit his head at any time or bite his arm.The scars formed on the arm for a long time are layered and shocking, as if it will never be good.When his emotions were unstable, the teacher would help him wear a protective head cover, while using other things to divert his attention and pull him out of the chaotic emotions.
Severe autism is often accompanied by epilepsy.Epilepsy is a severe twitch that may occur at any time and has no direct causes.Some autism youth may also seriously hurt themselves or others.
In order to improve the symptoms of children, parents often do everything, and they are still easy to be misunderstood as "no children."In the long run, parents of these children are often exhausted and even sick.I know some of these parents, some depression, and some of them.At the beginning, the father and mother in the case of Wuji Zhima's murder and the mother in Shandong also suffered from depression.However, the situation of "career fatigue" has not attracted enough attention in our society.
When ordinary people see parents of autistic children, the easiest comfort to export is "each child has strengths and flash points. Autism children also have special talents and can make some achievements.You see, the newspaper has been reported ... "However, hearing this comfortable parents can only smile bitterly because they cannot explain the suffering in their hearts.Such a language not only comforts them, but is like sprinkling salt on their wounds.
In this way, it's easy to say, but may make those parents more guilty to blame and blame- "Did I do it wrong?" "Why haven't I found any special talents in the child?" "Why do you do what you can, mine, mine, myIs it difficult for children to take out? "" Am I still not doing enough? "" Why did I give birth to such a child? "
The probability of genius and high IQ in children with autism is not higher than ordinary people.Generally, it is not easy for some mild autism children to reach the development level of children of the same age.Moreover, most children in medium and severe autism have not seen the "success" hope in the eyes of ordinary people from the beginning.They are "disabled people", and sometimes "body disability" is commendable.The problem is that severe autism usually has no "mind". After 18 years of age, there is basically no place to go. Most snails live at home.
In fact, even if it is mild, it is not easy to survive in school and workplace.Mild and partial moderate autism can be competent after learning, but there are not many people who can understand and accept their workplace.
From the beginning of discovering that children are autism, there are usually two types of parents' response models. One is to refuse to accept it. It is not until facing the problem of enrollment.Grasp the key window period of the child before the age of six, conduct dense training to improve the child's behavior.But the phenomenon I observe among many autistic children's parents group is that the more young children, the more they can hope and actively seek treatment; but generally more than 18 years of age, when the child becomes an older youth, the parents become more likelyThe more we have a weak heart.Some parents even said, "Now the child has made any serious illness, and he doesn't want to take care of it anymore, just let it go! Because of the hard work, that's it." It sounds extremely negative and sad.If you want to criticize such parents, how can you have such sinful thoughts?But only to understand their difficulties that their ordinary people are unimaginable, understand how they pay everything for their children, and it is not enough until they exhaust themselves.If you are ruthless and desperate.
This is not simply a family problem, but a social problem.Has our society supported them?Is the support given?Has our society gave their hopes?What hope is given to them?To the extent, a weak man can gain the concern of society and the support of society is also a manifestation of the overall civilization of society.Social support network has never been built for one person, but for everyone.It is hoped that "the world to improve autism consciousness day" can cause people to think and work together to establish a communist society.
The author is the creator of children's books, former media people
