Since the 20th century, the dating culture has changed dramatically. The younger generation has begun to accept a variety of romantic relationships, such as "contextual relationships", friends plus sexual partners, and non -monogamy.
My friends often feel that our parents or elderly people have a very interesting response to our dating life.We often hear them in surprise and ask: "What? Are you dating, but haven't you confirmed the relationship? Why is it so strange?"
Just as what I know as I know, as the older generation is as romantic than our older generation (about 21 to 27 years old) and the millennial (about 28 to 43).This leads to a problem.Since the beginning of the 20th century, how did our concept of romantic relations evolved?Compared with his predecessors, how do I deal with romantic relationships?
In the past, love is a formal process that involves family. It mainly focuses on the fit of marriage and is often affected by economic conditions and social status.Elementary relationships are usually limited to family interaction or social activities, and there is no concept of modern dating.
In the 1920s, people were often paired together.My mother often recalls the interesting things that the great -grandparents match through the matchmaker. Every time I hear these, I can't help laughing.The requirements of great -grandfather are simple -he just wants to ensure that his wife has a white teeth in the future.Because at the time, women's golden teeth were common.In order to ease the atmosphere, the matchmaker also told me a joke to my grandmother.Fortunately, my great -grandmother laughed brightly, showing white teeth, and passed the test smoothly.
The love story of my aunt and aunt began in the 1950s.The aunt met his aunt's brother and sister during a boat trip.He later visited them at Malacca's house, but at the time they were in Australia, and only my aunt was at home.As soon as my aunt saw her, she fell in love at first sight and began to pursue her.They usually go to the cinema.When my aunt missed the good time with my aunt, I smiled and recalled: "Once we went to see Dracula.Dracula was not true later.
My aunt is a senior civil servant in Malacca. He must learn the Malay and pass the language ability.He asked my aunt if she was willing to learn Malay with him, and she readily agreed.Since then, they go to Malaysian classes twice a week.After falling in love, they married in the 1960s.
Another relative recalled that when she dated her husband in the 1960s, she and her husband went to her house for dinner after get off work most of the time.On weekends, they will go to the cinema to date and take a walk together.
My parents met in the church in the 1990s. Their dating was often walking in the East Coast Park, and dinner was in McDonald's.People born at that time may remember that the phone was the only way to communicate.This also makes each moment they get along with particularly precious.Because my grandfather was very harsh, my mother was not allowed to call, and my parents could only wait for the grandfather to talk secretly at 11 pm after the grandfather slept.
Whenever they recall those late -night calls, the mother always has a desire and excited smile, as if it is a sweet secret ceremony between them.
More flexible and satisfying emotional and physical needs
Since the 21st century, the dating culture has undergone tremendous changes. The younger generation has begun to accept a variety of romantic relationships, such as "Situationship", friends plus sexual partners, and Feili -monsters.These new options allow generations to more flexibly meet emotional and physiological needs, and break the traditional dating model that used to take marriage as the ultimate goal.
Situation relationship is becoming more and more popular in generations of Z, which is reasonable.Such arrangements skip the path of traditional from dating to marriage.Many Z -generations no longer feel the pressure of milestones such as cohabitation or engagement, but to choose a more flexible situation.This relationship emphasizes the anxiety and pressure of living in the present to avoid "what to do next?"
A special manuscript two years ago, a special manuscript pointed out that the contextual relationship provides a way to avoid "waste of time" for those who have not clearly planned future planning.This relationship emphasizes the current demand without being burdened with long -term expectations and commitments.For example, the fourth -year students of the two universities may decide their date, but they do not intend to develop long -term relationships because they may consider the future to relocate work.
The concept of films starring in Mira Kunis and Justin Black may sound familiar.In practice, arrangement involves incorporating sexual elements while maintaining friendly relations, without emotional commitments that are not usually related to romantic relationships.This is a random setting that many Z -generations are exploring, reflecting the leisurely ways depicted by the film.
The non -monogamy provides another choice for the traditional exclusive relationship.In the monogamy, the partner only promises to each other, instead of the monogamy system allows multiple romantic or sexual partners to coexist.This method gives more flexibility and allows individuals to explore different emotions and physical connections freely without the constraints of traditional relations.
Different reasons for marriage and love is different from their predecessors
The exploration of marriage and love for generations is very different from those of the previous generations. There are several profound reasons behind it.
First of all, personal happiness and self -realization have become the core values of generations.Unlike the previous generations, the marriage and the establishment of a family are regarded as an important milestone in life. Gen Z attaches more importance to personal growth, career success, and exploring new lifestyles.Traditional marriage concepts and linear love models are not their only choice.
In addition, Singapore's economy is stable and provides more freedom and opportunities for generations.Compared with the economic pressure faced by his predecessors, generations of the Z no longer need to be eager to settle down as in the past, but you can focus on pursuing personal needs and interests.Therefore, they are more inclined to choose a relationship model consistent with their current needs and values, rather than simply follow social expectations.This transformation reflects the emphasis on generations of self -actuality and personality, and also reflects the tolerance of the social environment for their choice.
Western media and technology have also had a profound impact on dating trends.For example, movies like friends who have benefits have become more common and accepted by the concept of random relationship.At the same time, dating applications such as Tinder, Bumble, and Hinge have made acquainted friends with unprecedented convenience.These platforms are more complicated and diversified by providing rich choices and expanding the possibility of dating.
Talk with people of different generations to reveal the changes in the method of dating.My Dutch friend Alexandra dated in the 1970s and 1980s, and is still active in the dating circle. She shared: "I think the date of date is very different from the way we met in the past.In the age, we have no mobile phone.At home, open up social media, contact your friends who may know or not.The change is observed.P>
My other friend Jian Rong, now in his 20s, met his partner on Bumble.He said: "Although the applied application provides many options, it is important to clarify the intention and desire. Frankly treats it to avoid misunderstanding and make the date process more smooth."
Looking at the method of dating generations in the Z, we can find that their relationships and styles are changing in a more flexible and diverse direction.From context to non -monogamy, today's dating scene reflects changes in people's attitude and priority matters.To understand these trends, you can understand how modern romance evolves.
When we deeply discuss the different ways of dealing with the romantic relationship of generations, we must pay attention to the differences between these modern practices and previous generations.Traditional dating follows clear milestones and social expectations, and contemporary young people are redefining relationships through more personalized and flexible ways.This change not only shows the diversity of modern relations, but also reflects the extensive cultural change that affects young people's connection and commitment.
Dear elders, next time you hear the experience of Gen Z about their experience in the dating world, hoping to have a clearer understanding of these new developments.
The author is a local online media platform intern
