With the changes in society, the concept of modern Chinese marriage has changed significantly. More and more young Chinese young people are not willing to get married, delay and even abandon marriage. Marriage is no longer a must -have in life.Since the crown disease epidemic, the uncertainty and out of control of the individual's future development have become more trend.
Every section is urged to marry.At the end of the year, in some Chinese families, the elders are about to start again.
33 -year -old Jianwen is a staff member of a company in Foshan, Guangdong. Recently, he once again rejected a blind date for his parents.
After graduating from Jianwen University, he stayed with his parents after graduating. With the support of his family, he soon became a car and a family, and his work performance was lonely and belonged to the "potential stocks" in the eyes of outsiders.
In recent years, Jianwen's parents have arranged more than 10 blind date for him, but he is still single so far, and he has increasingly resisted his parents' care and Zhang Luo.
Jianwen said: "It's hard to meet the right one, I don't want to just want it."
He said in an interview with Lianhe Morning Post that in his life plan, marriage is not an urgent and necessary option, and he can live well alone.Compared with single, he is even more worried about falling into a bad relationship.
Huang Feiling (31 years old), who is engaged in lawyers in Shanghai, also has similar concepts and adherences.Although she has reached the age of marriage, there are also pressure from her parents, she is not anxious and is not anxious to get married.
Huang Feiling, his hometown in Ningde, Fujian, now lives in Shanghai alone.She told Lianhe Zaobao that although she also had the desire for spiritual and emotional support, she clearly realized that marriage represents the long way to go together.In this long process, turning and changes may occur, so when the two parties choose to enter a relationship, they must be very rational and cautious.
Huang Feiling believes that "bad relationships will corrode a person."
She said that marriage needs to be combined with each other, and it becomes better with each other. If it is because of anxiety, fear, or to seek dependence, she hurried into a relationship.Essence
As a lawyer, during the practice, Huang Feiling had exposed to many divorce cases. After seeing many families ruptured, the woman collapsed, but this did not affect her attitude towards marriage -she did not exclude marriageEssenceOn the contrary, these experiences have become experience and wealth, so that she can learn from the way of getting along with marriage.
Huang Feiling said: "It is too necessary to have something to do." In her opinion, the couple is a very deep fate. She believes that the arrangement of destiny is natural, and there is no need to be too anxious and looking forward to the marriage.
Huang Feiling represented some independent women's attitudes and willingness to marriage in this era. They are rational and independent, and have the right to choose. Marriage is no longer a single problem for them.
Like Huang Fei Ling and Jianwen, there are more and more young people who refuse to be anxious in marriage in China.
Xiaohongshu, Douyin and other Chinese social platforms, many bloggers have the labels set by themselves to themselves as "women's growth", "free life", "non -marriated infertility", "not married alone" and so on.They shared their outlook on marriage and single living conditions, and they seemed to be comfortable.
A 34 -year -old Xiaohongshu with tens of thousands of fans said that the reason for choosing not to get married is because "the fun of living a person is greater than two people."
She said in her personal account that she used emotions to others. If the other party did not meet expectations, she would have emotional fluctuations. After changing all this, the state became completely different.
This remark has been recognized a lot, and a fan commented, "You said my thoughts completely."
More young people postpone marriage
More and more young people in China are choosing to postpone or even give up marriage.According to data released by the Ministry of Civil Affairs in June this year, in 2022, the number of Chinese marriage was 6.8333,000, a decrease of 150,000 pairs from 2021, a new low since 1986.
In 2013, the number of registered marriages in China reached a peak of 13.469,000 pairs. Since then, it has declined year after year.
At the same time, the age of marriage and childbearing in Chinese young people is generally delayed.According to the Chinese census data, in 2020, China's average first marriage age was 28.67 years, an increase of 3.78 years from the age of 24.89 in 2010.
Wedding agent: Wedding is no longer a must -have in life
Why do Chinese young people do not want to get married?
Ye Guoqing, who was engaged in marriage agency in Guangzhou, said that the main force of the current wedding market is the "post -80s" and "post -90s" group.Requirements also have a clear understanding of marriage and love.
Ye Guoqing said that for many young people, marriage is no longer a must -have for life. If they have not found candidates who are in line with themselves in all aspects, they may rather be "single".
Zhou Xiaopu, a professor at the School of Journalism of Renmin University of China, pointed out in an interview that the concept of modern Chinese marriage has changed significantly, which can be roughly used in the 1980s as the watershed.
She said that among the people born before the 1980s, except for individual special circumstances, most of the young people of appropriate young people should take marriage and child as a must -have.The outlook on marriage and fertility also changed greatly.
Scholars: Inflatable Life Invoin the Wishes of Unmarried
Zhou Xiaopu pointed out that the change of marriage and love of a generation is the result of the superposition of multiple factors, including economic conditions, social environment, value concepts, and cultural education.Under the family planning policy that China began to implement in the 1970s, most of the "post -80s" and "post -90s" were only children. They received more attention in growth and paid more attention to self -feelings., Delaying marriage or abandoning marriage is more about their choice after comprehensively measuring happiness.
She said, on the one hand, many young people are undergoing intense workplace pressure, lacking social and dating time, and thinking that "they can't take care of themselves"; on the other hand, high cities have high housing prices, raising children and women spend large, educational competition, and competition in education competition.Fierce, these have affected the willingness of young people to get married and fertilized. Especially in recent years, the economic situation has become increasingly complicated and serious. Some young people have low income and increased in uncertainty.
However, Zhou Xiaopu also pointed out that although the phenomenon of delaying marriage and childbirth is common, most young people will still set up families in the end, "getting married in his 30s and nearly 40 years old."
I look forward to the highly ideal partner difficult to find
The expectation of young people's expectations for partners has also become one of the difficulties for Chinese young men and women to enter their marriage.In addition, three years of crown disease epidemic, let Chinese young people marryThe view changes and is more rational in the face of marriage.
According to the China Marriage Dating Platform Century Jiayuan Earlier this year, the annual Chinese men's and women's marriage view survey report, more than 95 % of non -wedding young people have requested and planned the other half of their ideal, more than 40 % of them have clear requirementsEssence
For the requirements of the ideal partner, 58 % of non -marriage youths will "fit self -life planning" as an important consideration standard.The report believes that this increases the difficulty of young men and women to find an ideal partner.
In addition, the continued increase in social divorce rate has also affected individual marriage willingness.
According to the official data, compared with last year, the number of registered marriages in China this year has increased. The number of weddings in the first quarter increased by 40,000 to the same period last year, but the number of divorce was also rising, an increase of 127,000 compared with the same period last year last year last yearright.
The change of marriage and love after the epidemic changes
Ye Guoqing, who has been engaged in the work of eight years of marriage, also pointed out that the concept of marriage and love for the marriage people has become more rational. Especially after the crown disease epidemic, people's uncertainty and out of control in future development have exacerbated this oneTrends, more young people are unwilling to be bound by marriage, yearn for free life, and attach importance to the realization of self -worth.
She said: "We used to say that middle -aged and elderly people have lived together, but now young groups are also popular for this way to get along."
Ye Guoqing observed that many young people now feel that they do n’t need to get a marriage certificate. It ’s good to find someone who can live together to live together; there are more and more young people who accept the AA system in cohabitation life to share living expenses together.
She pointed out that, compared with the past, young people today are rarely blind and optimistic about marriage. They emphasize the fit of spirit, and they also agree with the traditional view of "marriage should be a household".The market changes and development trends have become more and more obvious in the past three years."A lot of hand in hand, but getting along with each other, there are very few getting a marriage certificate."
She estimates that compared with eight years ago, through her matchmaker, the success rate of young men and women finally entered the marriage, which was about two -thirds.
Local governments build a wedding and dating platform
The number of weddings has declined for many years, and the fertility rate has continued to decrease. Some local governments are also trying to "help the country to find objects" to build a dating platform for young people to help young people solve problems.
According to Guangxi News Network, in the mid -and -long -term youth development plan released by Guangxi in 2019, the youth wedding love is included in one of the 10 areas of 10 areas of the development of youth development.It is proposed that it is necessary to regularly organize activities such as friendship and friends, collective weddings, etc., support the construction of online youth dating platforms, etc. "Create more opportunities and conditions for them to make friends."
In Guixi, Jiangxi, the government led a small procedure for marriage custom reform, set up unmarried men's and women's databases, and established online blind date platforms.According to the China Youth Daily, the city's 31 villages (communities) have completed the wedding venue, that is, the registration and approval of the matchmaker's studio, and the wedding service has been launched.
Zhou Xiaopu, a professor at the School of Journalism of Renmin University of China, pointed out that for the dilemma of contemporary young people, all sectors of society should discuss this to understand the confusion faced by young people of different groups.Setting measures can solve problems to a certain extent, which are their acceptable solutions.
She believes that fundamentally, solving the real problems of the existence of young groups, and reducing their material burden and psychological burden on marriage and fertility, can we increase the willingness of young people to get married and stimulate more people into the door of marriage.
