Accepting facts does not mean learning to confess, but accepting the fact that children are an ordinary person, reconcile with themselves, and reconcile with their children.
Recently, a video of a video of Ding Yanqing, an associate professor at Peking University, became popular online.
Ding Yanqing is an associate professor and doctoral supervisor at the School of Education of Peking University. His wife is also a high student from Peking University.However, according to the popular video, he also seemed to collapse and helpless to give his daughter's counseling.
Video according to the Internet
Ding Yanqing also said, no matter how good you are, your child is probably an ordinary person. You must realize this and learn to accept it. It is good for anyone.However, some people doubt how can Peking University's high -ranking students give birth to uncomfortable children?Others questioned whether the education method of parents had a problem.
If Xueba's parents have a child, they seem incredible, but in fact, it is likely to be a high probability event.British biologists and statisticians Gorkon discovered when studying the relationship between his father and his son's height: When his father was higher than the average height, his son's height was higher than he was shorter than him; his fatherWhen the average height is short, the probability of his son is shorter than him than he is higher than him.In other words, from a statistically point of view, the height of the children is closer to the average height.This phenomenon is called regression effect.
Therefore, some scholars use this theory to use human IQ, thinking that in the long run, the IQ will also return to the average value of the entire society.In fact, this is not surprising.It can also be known based on common sense that high IQ people only account for a very small part in the whole society, just like low IQ people only account for a small part, most people are neither very smart nor stupid.Ordinary people.Therefore, the child of Xueba's parents may also be an ordinary child.
However, such common sense is difficult to accept. After all, who is not looking for Jackie Chan and a girl?Who wants to be your own child than yourself?The author knows too much about such anxiety and unwillingness.The author and their families also graduated from the well -known domestic 985 universities, and they have also been learned from childhood.However, after the child went to elementary school, he discovered that not only did the baby not become a school bully, but instead moved towards the road of scum.From the distressed, to doubt life, and finally helplessly accept it, the whole process is simply a cultivation of life.
Of course, accepting facts does not mean learning to confess.Presumably, Teacher Ding said to learn to accept, not many people understand lying flat and do nothing.Instead, accepting children is an ordinary person's fact, reconcile with themselves, and reconcile with children.This is a rational and wise attitude.Just like my mentor, a university professor from the scholar family, and also a son of scum.But he always treated his son with a tolerance and optimistic attitude, and finally helped him find his interest. Now his son has also achieved a small achievement in his career.
In fact, it is difficult to change their lives without accepting the facts.In the hit TV series, the protagonist Nan Yan faced this problem. Her choice was to go to the chicken baby in various ways.In the end, the child could not bear the high pressure, emotional collapse, and ran away from home on a heavy rainy day.If you work hard on the basis of learning to admit your life, you may change your life against the sky, otherwise, it is likely that it is just the same.
Therefore, in the attitude towards the child, there is no such choice question, but as Teacher Ding said, it is necessary to accept the characteristics of the child.In fact, the so -called Xueba Social Scum does not completely summarize a person, and it can only show that at most one child's achievements under the current education system.In addition to scores, there are many aspects of life.Seeing this, you can be able to attach less academic performance.
For his own child, Su Dongpo once said that he would like to be foolish and disaster to the public.Tao Yuanming even talked about his own child.Tongzi is nine years old, but he is looking for pears and chestnuts.Thirteen -year -old children do not know the numbers, and the nine -year -old baby wants to eat all day all day long. What should I do?Tian Yungou is like this, and in the cup, accepting the facts, and drinking a cup of bar mdash; mdash;These two are already rare elites in history. The attitude towards children is still so open -minded. Perhaps we should also let go of their obsession.
Red Star News Special commentator Tu Tu Emu
from Red Star Review
Original title: Associate Professor Peking University spit out that daughter is not as good as herself, and fate is not equal to lying flat
